Not sure how to proceed or just move on?

[Accuray]

You could try something different and just not respond. The AA guidance your SIL shared with you is something I've heard before -- that for someone who is an addict, they need to focus on meetings and getting sober and should not have romantic or sexual relationships during their recovery period because they need to figure themselves out and learn to stand on their own two feet without using a relationship as an excuse or a crutch.

That guidance (I believe) is usually for single people versus married people, so it sounds like they're treating her as single.

The challenge I have with your course of action here is you're deciding what to do with your life based on reacting to what W does and what W says.

I think you need to flip that upside down, decide what YOU want to do, and do it. Decide how you want to live.

You're like a cork bobbing around in W's ocean where every wave throws you around and any breath of wind pushes you in a different direction. You need to be like a giant cargo ship heading in a set direction, where neither the waves nor the wind matter one bit. There's a set inertia, and nothing is going to overcome it.

That way, W can thrash, jump up and down, change course, whatever, but your ship keeps steaming forward.

Acc