“She has this fantasy of how much better her life would be without you? Show her what that life is like! Give her the time and space she asked for. REALLY give it to her. (Yes this means no sex and affection, at least for now. Trust me, you'll survive.)”
I guess this is where I’m struggling right now. So...no affection at all? Not even a kiss on the cheek / arm goodnight and a verbal ‘goodnight’?
I’m not necessarily struggling with the ‘surviving’ part of that—it’s more of struggling on the execution. For the most part, I’ve been hands off and detaching more emotionally. It’s just that I’m a sucker for wishing her a goodnight.
I struggle with this because one of her consistent early complaints (areas of anger / unhappiness) has been about sex (frequency and different practices and such). I think to myself: if she’s so unhappy and angry with me because I haven’t been giving that to her as much as she wanted in the past, would doing a 180 mean giving her more?
