I haven’t reached out to H to see how he was doing. So yesterday morning, I get 3 messages in a row:
#1 Informs me the time and date of MILs memorial service, and asks if I can take care of flowers and a few photos. #2. “In case you were curious, I was in a lot of pain”, followed by info on Dr. Appointments. #3 “Pain has lessened but still substantial. In a sling”
I didn’t respond. After about an hour, I had to message him about our joint email account (it was compromised). I added that I was already working on the photos and would take care of the flowers.
I didn’t take the bait. Said nothing about his injury or pain. I realized that if he wants to live alone, he can deal with his pain alone.
