Yail and Burned, thanks for your insight. I definitely plan on continuing to DB. My observation was just to say that every W has her own situation going on and mine doesn't quite fit the mould, as it were. She is a very determined person. First in her family to get a college degree and she went on to get her masters. This is after her tragic early life (especially early adulthood). I'm not going to share that story as it's not mine to share, but she has overcome a great deal through perseverance and grit. She puts on a bold (sometimes angry) face, but there are a lot of cracks where I see this is tearing her up inside. I don't believe she'll deviate from her course, but I hold onto hope that this particular strategy will be effective, either during the waiting period or after the divorce. I think I stated it earlier, but I have an overwhelming conviction to keep the family together as a single unit (very anti-divorce). Despite this, I'm getting better at DBing every day, let her go a little more, detach a little further, work on myself a little harder. It's incredibly tough to keep the mindset and I slip up on occasion, but this forum has been a real pillar for me. Just to get my thoughts out there or to recap events. Especially to get advice and read other people's struggles.
I just wrote about this in my How To Save Your Marriage thread.
Wasn't she just as determined when she took wedding vows with you? She changes her mind once, she can do so again. The key is to let her go. Stop trying to fix things and her. Save yourself, not the marriage.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
