[AnotherStander]

Bottom line I’m tired of his BS.

For the past year I’ve worked my ass off to try and save this marriage. I’ve bent over backwards for a man that betrayed me in the worst ways. I’ve given a man a second chance that couldn’t even have the courage to come tell me he was unhappy in our marriage. No but he was able to go put his heart out to the chick he cheated on me with last year. He told a total freaking stranger his feelings before he even told me...his freaking wife.

I’ve given my all to this marriage and I don’t deserve the way he has treated me. So yes LH 19 it’s not fair for him to call all the shots. I’m taking my power back. Guys I may not be doing things exactly the way I should but I’m taking my freaking power back.

GOOD!!!! I agree with Burned, this is a solid turning point for you and will HELP your situation. You're starting to see this situation for what it really is- you've got a lying, cheating husband that's not worth your efforts. He's not the man you fell in love with, the MLC fairies stole that man and dumped this loser into his body. So get mad and get busy taking control of your life. Get off his roller coaster!

So I get home and notice that he didn’t move his things in the other room. OK so I never answered your question. You could have still taken the initiative to move your things into the other room.

Box it up and move it out yourself. Just stick it right outside the door. Send a message to him that you are done with his crap!

So as wrong as I may be and some of you may chastise me for this...this morning after he left for work, I moved all his clothes, shoes, and toiletries into the other room myself.

LOL! I replied before reading the whole thing, but you see what I just said so that should tell you what I think of your actions (clapping hands)

You want a divorce? You want to be separated? Let’s start acting like it.

EXACTLY. No more cake-eating.

I’m done trying to save my marriage. I’ve been the only one trying to save it and all it has gotten me is hurt, lied to, lead on, confused, mistreated, and betrayed. I’m over it.

Preach! This lays the groundwork for what you should have been doing all along- working on you and leaving him to his mess. I'm not saying run out and file for D but I am saying leave him alone and do your own thing. Send him a message that you are Plan A or not on the radar. Plan B is no longer acceptable to you.