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I’m taking my power back. Guys I may not be doing things exactly the way I should but I’m taking my freaking power back.

So I get home and notice that he didn’t move his things in the other room. OK so I never answered your question. You could have still taken the initiative to move your things into the other room.

So as wrong as I may be and some of you may chastise me for this...this morning after he left for work, I moved all his clothes, shoes, and toiletries into the other room myself. You want a divorce? You want to be separated? Let’s start acting like it.

I’m done trying to save my marriage. I’ve been the only one trying to save it and all it has gotten me is hurt, lied to, lead on, confused, mistreated, and betrayed. I’m over it.

Hmm. I’m not too familiar with your sitch but this right here sounds OK to me. You get fed up and you start standing up for yourself, they take notice. You regain some of the respect you lost. Wonder what other people are thinking, but I don’t see this as a bad thing. Paradoxically it might move you in the direction of saving your M.

Thank you Burned! I truly appreciate it. I don’t have a manual of how to handle this type of sitch as I’ve never been through it before. I just know I have bent over backwards trying to save my marriage. I have listened to my husband and tried to understand things as best as I can. But now I am fed up. I’m done trying to save my marriage. I’m not the one that broke it so I’m tired of being the one trying to fix it. My H no longer wants to be married. He no longer wants to be confined by a marriage. He wants the freedom to come and go as he pleases and to go find happiness. I’m not the one that wants out he is. So the ball is in his court.

As I stated he wants to be separated, he wants out of this marriage (his words), so I’m showing him the door. Time to start living authentic and be separated.