Good for you. Only comment is you do not need to explain yourself. It sounds like you are forcing consequences down her throat. You do not need to do that. She knows the consequences and force feeding them to her will only make her resent you more. A simple "Appreciate the offer but I can't come down early. I have other plans".
I got different advice in the previous thread. I won't deny it felt good to tell her those things, but it probably wasn't the high road. At this moment I would be open to post-D reconciliation (if she were to work on things). At some point I won't feel that way and probably relatively soon. I just don't know how to proceed with that in the back of my mind. Do I go dark? Should I remain a presence in her life, stay classy, be her friend, and continue to be the lighthouse? Well, for me it will be a balance of staying classy, but also relieving myself of some of my NGS. Not really sure how to proceed. Would love advice. Basically, do I go mostly dark (except when it relates to the kids) or do I strive to be her friend?
