Thank you for stopping by Nicole. It would be my fondest wish that my H changed his mind and give us a second chance to do right by our kids but realistically, it is unlikely, as he has been convincing himself this is the only option for the past four years and probably even longer than that. One could convince oneself of almost anything in that amount of time. So I have no choice but to move on. It would be so much easier for me to do without our kids. I have always been steadfastly opposed to divorce with children unless you have exhausted EVERY option but it takes two to want to do that. My H’s position is that as long as both parents love their kids and are “happy”, they will adjust. That is what people tell themselves to absolve themselves of guilt. I could adjust to working in a salt mine, it doesn’t mean I am better off. Kids deserve to have both parents 100% of the time and the advantages that come along with that. You can adjust to having one parent 50% of the time but you are not better off. If your parent isn’t there, (s)he isn’t there. But as long as (s)he is “happy”.... (insert eye roll).
