DB on 8/10/18. She moved to another state on 7/15 with D12 and D8 while I stayed behind to take care of the house we were trying to sell. W called me on 8/10 and told me that the time away reinforced her feeling that she doesn't love me anymore.
For two weeks I begged and pleaded, before finding this site. Since then, I've mostly adhered to the principles (except for a reconciliation letter). Detaching was the hardest principle for me to maintain, and I still struggle with it. The D settlement was fair and fast. W filed for D on 11/3. We have a hearing on 12/3 to finalize the D. One week short of four months has to be close to a record for shortest time between DB and D.
For about the last month I was in a groove with 180, GAL, detaching. The last two weeks set me back. I had a great time with our daughters, and it made me sad that I'll only get to see them half of the time. This last weekend we told the girls and then spent the weekend as a family. That only made me sad for what could have been. I spent the last two days in self-pity, mainly smoking cigars.
Tonight, I got back to keeping myself busy. I went out to dinner with a co-worker, then came home and cleaned the house, washed the dishes, and did the laundry. Tomorrow I'm volunteering at Feed My Starving Children. The weekend will be filled with visits with family and friends.
