Wow TJT... I could have written that. And I think we may have been married to the same person... the one who never speaks up about how he feels but keeps a bag of resentments close to his side in order to justify his lack of fight. You sound like a strong woman. My H has always been attracted to strong women but then, over time, he grows to resent them for the very things he liked about them in the first place. Confident becomes controlling...determined becomes stubborn...intelligent becomes “know-it-all”...you get the gist. My H has a very hard time expressing his feelings if they are at all negative. He is incredibly articulate and has the gift of gab but he clams up whenever it comes to his internal experience. He also only ever talks to the people in his life that he thinks will agree with his perspective. He avoids anyone he thinks might judge him or tell him he is wrong. Your H, like mine, has a lot of work to do.
I’m with you btw... this is not an experience I would care to have twice but at least I have a better idea of what characteristics I need to avoid in the future.
