Pain...no need to apologize. Not a hijack. I value all input and it is hard to not talk about someone else’s sitch without relating it to your own. We are all in this together...so you are not alone.
DnJ...thank you for being my cheerleader and for being the voice of calm and reason. I fully intend to get a consult from an L before I ever step into any kind of negotiation. Likely we will try to mediate but not before I know exactly where I stand. Despite my H’s addled emotional mind, I do hope he will be able to put the kids’ best interests at heart but I will not count on it. Sadly, I have learned, the hard way, not to count on him for anything. So sad because I know that things could have been so different if he had only trusted me enough to talk to me when all of this began. Of course, it could be that I am not the one he couldn’t trust. In a weird way, I think he couldn’t trust himself.
