...the biggest being the inevitable separation of finances and custody issues.
A suggestion DV. This has a financial component, as much as we want it not too, it does. See a lawyer.
I know your province doesn’t have separation agreements, it is a year apart then divorce. However, find out what you are facing. What the worst case is, what the most likely case is. What you are willing to negotiate and what you are not. All you are doing is gathering information, and information is power. This is a lot to take in, the sooner you start the process the sooner you figure out what you want.
None of that means you are divorcing H, or even want a divorce. You are just getting info. And don’t tell H about it, nothing good will come from that.
You need to protect and ensure a future and security for you and your children. That requires information from a L who deals with this stuff, knows what the courts consider important and not. The L will also give valuable advice on custody.
You have the gift of time right now, use it wisely. My W was in such a desperate rush she pushed our separation through in 2 months. I hardly had time to breathe.
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
I fully expect there to be an OW showing up at some point.
Sadly, that is probably true. The number of WS who have affairs is staggering. Pay little attention to any OW, it means nothing! Seriously. All his antics have very little to do with you, it is all about him and his addled emotional mind.
You are doing great. Stay strong.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
