Thanks Pain, I did start the process early after BD but W had fired warning shots almost a year earlier. After those warning shots I did a lot of pursing and all the wrong things. Perhaps her mind was made up then, I don't know. I look back and think she was making her exit strategy and instead of giving her space I pursued, did some begging and pleading and sealed my own fate. Hindsight is 20/20, nothing I can do about it now other then detaching, giving her space, GAL and fixing what I can with myself and looking forward.
