Is love worth the pain? Back to Basics

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Recommendations on detaching besides reading? The physical desire / sexual connection is really strong. Got a IC referred by MC who is also a sex therapist. So I will call her tomorrow and continue therapy.

Came across this from AnotherStander-
One of my ex's enablers left her H, moved out and acted like a college girl on spring break. Her H was like "you want to leave, well there's the door." He didn't do all the begging/ pleading/ placating that most of us did. He just went silent on her. She got a tattoo of a butterfly on her lower back with a phrase in Latin that translated to something like "she's finally free", LOL! 6 months later she was back home with her H like nothing ever happened. That was around 5 years ago and they are still together. Sandi is always talking about how she wishes more LBS's would take that kind of a "tough love" approach with a wayward because that is pretty much the only thing that works with them. The problem with most of us here is we are afflicted with NGS (nice guy syndrome) and are unable/ unwilling to take that approach.

Thats what I am going to do. She wants the divorce go for it. Im done with all the chasing trying etc. Focus is on me and D4. My future and my social life. I have wasted so much mental energy on W and helping / trying / fixing. Done with it. And now to just be consistent.