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J9 and Ryan,

I appreciate your input and support. The thought of those things sounded so scary from the outset. Not gonna lie, I was definitely codependent. Didn't know how I could care for 3 little kids by myself, keep the house up, cook, clean and for me, do all of the work at my job since W and I worked together ever since we got out of law school. She has a new job now, so I've gotten a taste of what all of that entails and I think I'm handling it pretty amazingly. Not nearly as scary as I thought it would be. Some of that is probably the fact that I HAVE to do those things and some of it just isn't as hard as I imagined.

That said, the thought of D still freaks me out a little bit, but I don't fear it or am as intimated by it as I was initially. I know now that I'll be fine if that is indeed the path that's chosen for me. I suppose this separation period helps in that respect since I'm being 'eased' into it, so to speak.

Being able to do what I want, when I want will be a nice benefit. That and some financial savings that I'll be afforded in my situation if we end up calling it quits won't be so bad as well.

I'm a little concerned with income tax and having to file single vs. jointly though....I believe the tax brackets are much higher for filing as a single and I won't be losing much income since we both ran our business together. The income stays the same more or less..... I probably shouldn't dwell on stuff like this until I'm actually faced with it. No use worrying about it until I have to deal with it. I told my W I'm absolutely opposed to D awhile back, so if she wants it, she needs to do the work and file. Nothing has been filed yet.