Humans are the only animals (to the best of our knowledge) who can experience emotional pain, because we have the capacity to envision alternate possibilities. Most recently I came across this line of thinking (and articulated really well) in a book called 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson. [quote]
Yes! Exactly. I just want to be an ant right now, amazingly intelligent but no capacity to understand feelings, lol (ants don't have feelings right?) Thank you for that recommendation. I currently have The Power of Now on my nightstand to get through too.
[quote=burned] Is that attitude part of the WW syndrome? Maybe. It's certainly yet another reason why our sitches are so eerily similar.
Ugh. Note to self... It's unfortunate because for the industry he's in, I do empathize that there's not a lot of "good" options. But for sure there were things he could have thought through a little more, or taken more steps/put in the dirty work to get his own business going, which he talked about constantly and which I encouraged him to start doing and offered to help with in any way I could. And of course, despite the fact that MY area of work is closely related to business development type stuff, he didn't seem to see me as someone who could be a partner/adviser, which made me sad, especially since I know deep down we both wanted the same thing: A teammate!
Originally Posted by burned
And there you go again, reading my mind. These are fears that I am thoroughly familiar with. Earlier on in my sitch I was advised to sort of put them on ice, if that's something you can consciously do. Let tomorrow's worries be for tomorrow.
Yeah, I think it's good advice and really the only option to stay sane. How are you feeling now? Has it abated some or are you still working through those fears?
H:39 W:30 M:4 T:9
05/2018: H says "ILYBNILWY", BD 07/2018: Discovered A, confronted 09/2018: PA + other details emerge; H moved out 12/2018: I filed 03/2019: Divorce finalized
