Then SIL told me what really happened. That they found her to be an alcoholic and gave her a set of rules to follow.
Who is "they", her family? Or a counselor? Who pronounced her an "alcoholic"?
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They told her that she can’t drink, go out, have any contact with her party friends, and that she needs to go to meetings 4 times a week. And no sex for one year.
Her family is telling her this? What kind of bizarre (5 step?) program is this? What are the consequences if she doesn't comply with these boundaries?
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They told her that it was due to her actions that our family is no longer together. That their goal for her is to reunite us as a family but that she needs to follow this “treatment”.
Meaning reunite her and you or her and the rest of her family? Or all of the above?
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And that we should wait 1 year to try again, and we need to start as friends and move up from there. W told SIL that she wants to turn her life around.
All these rules are baffling to me in their seeming randomness. What does "1 year" have to do with anything. She might be ready in 3 months. Or 2 years. Or never!
