Pain, I hear you, I am am in a similar boat. I to have a selfish, lying, manipulating, maybe cheating W in front of me. I also struggle with all of these feelings daily. You can't ignore their actions but try and use them in a positive light for yourself. None of us on here deserve to be treated this way, we all deserve the type of relationship we want, sure we made some mistakes along the way, I find myself wondering often if the one big mistake I did make was hanging onto an unhealthy relationship for too long. Either way I look at it, with W or without I know the kind of relationship and love I deserve and how I deserve to be treated despite my flaws and that is what I am going after.
One thing I recognized very early on after joining here is how similar all of our WAS's are. We can all clearly see what is really going on but they seem to have no clue. One thing I am really starting to realize quite quickly is that as the LBS I have the upper hand and i think we all do, we clearly see the issues with the relationship, with ourselves, we are striving to fix what we can, we are striving to grow, our WAS's not so much from what I can tell. In the end we LBS's will be much better off in our lives as a whole regardless of the outcome of our sitch's. I sleep soundly at night knowing that either way I will be better off as an individual in the end.
