In any case, a recent episode was a selection from her upcoming book in which she talks about not letting anyone "should" on you. She uses this expression to mean worrying both about other people think you should do in the grief process, as well as what your own internal expectations make you think you should do.
I used to be big into philosophy, despite having a STEM educational background. I thoroughly enjoy it. I always thought of "should", and for that matter "right" and "wrong", as words people use to control others. You "should" do this or you "should" do that. Most always, what you "should" do is what best suits that other person. Humans are crazy and selfish like that.
I don't "like" that you are going to date, but it's so easy for me to say that from afar. I don't think it's right for me to date while still married, but of course there is the part of me that yearns for attention, conversation, appreciation, affection, physical touch. I haven't decided to do that yet, and of course our situations are different. I hope for the best for you Davide. Follow your heart, but use your head.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
