Why does the thought of him filing for D scare you so much? Haven't you been essentially living as if you are D'd for a while now? What is it about the actual filing that scares you so much?
I see a lot of LBWs struggling with this. The H could be living in Timbuktu. Never contacting the LBW. Sleeping with 8 different women a night. Or even worse. But the LBW is so afraid of the D being filed.
You need to realize that filing for D is nothing more than a legal process. It does nothing to help nor hurt your sitch. There is nothing preventing your H from doing anything he wants before the D is filed as opposed to after. This is my point above. Say he files today. Tomorrow is no different because of it.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018