Pain if you are in the PNW and specifically WA they are community property state and pretty pro 50/50 custody if I remember right. I am not advocating D, but other than D what can you do to boot her out of the house? Her behavior is utterly disgusting and I totally sympathize with you. Now that I realize where your general location is it makes a little more sense that your counselor is a whack a doo, I have met quite a few interesting folks from the wetside.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19