[Wanted1]

I'm honestly confused......Respect, to me, means I need to show her that I know what she's up to and I disapprove of it. This limbo stage we are in was suppose to let her figure out what she wants. How the hell is that going to happen when she's continuing to contact OM? Contact with one stopped (supposedly) and now there is contact with the other!

How is it respecting myself to just let that slide by and dismiss it? That seems weak but then again, a lot of this stuff is counterintuitive to what I would normally think is the right approach so if someone can explain it to me, I'd appreciate it.

I honestly don't want to attend Retrouvaille now with what I've found. It won't turn her around when she's still secretly chatting with OM.

I don't feel bad about snooping and honestly what I've found hasn't send me into a tizzy like it has in the past. I'm pretty neutral to it. It is what it is and to be honest, it doesn't surprise me in the least. I'm not going to say anything to OM W right now (we 'were' all friends) but I think down the road I will. If it were me, I'd want to know the truth. Which I guess is why I snooped. I like to know what I'm dealing with exactly. I want the truth and the facts. Even if it's idle chit-chat, it is still wrong considering their past history.

So, do I just send her a text and say, disregard my invitation for Retrouvaille. If she asks why, what do I say?