Most of her anger comes from her getting pregnant. We are Catholic, and up to recently we practiced Natural Family Planning (NFP). This was what I looked for in a marriage partner, and this was something we agreed upon when getting married. This was one of the 'specifics I could get into' in the OP, but refrained from. I'm also not looking to get into a discussion on the merits of plannings births or church teachings.
Long story short, she expressed unhappiness with NFP a few times, but I wanted to stick with it and tried to get her some help and community with doing it.
Welp....she got pregnant, and thus could not retake her physical fit test for a promotion and had that career path closed off to her.
The other causes of her unhappiness / angry include 'forgetfulness' on my part about things, and a relative reluctance to talk about sex / intimacy. I know there was a 3rd, but it's not placing (hence her issue).
For the most part, I did work on those things and tried to improve from her talk in the spring--address the forgetfulness and talk more about / have more sex and intimacy. At least as much as I could. Would I backslide at times? Sure. But I thought things were trending in the right direction.
But in Oct, she mentioned that I made progress, but then would backslide, but was light on specifics.
The NFP part was resolved when she went to her OB and got an IUD. She told me she would do it. In light of the last few months, I told her that I don't think it's a good idea, but that I ultimately can't change her mind and will respect her free will.
I haven't talked about the relationship, or any talk about separation or anything Iike that since.
I'm also not saying anything about anniversary, unless she brings it up.
