L,

Unfortunately after following this board for four years you see the patterns and it becomes pretty predictable how it's going to play out.

The good news is that you are doing everything right on your end and not pursuing him and pushing further away.

Since we don't think he is in an active affair IMO you shouldn't try to push him out. Continue to double down on your GAL and let him be for now.

I truly believe in these sitches that men are more likely to change their minds then women.