My friend gave me a good kick in the a$$ tonight, and gave me a strong determination to take a stance and let H know what it will be like without me. I haven't checked up on him at all today, and won't. I plan to only respond to specific questions, and only see him when absolutely necessary (his mom's memorial service and burial are coming up next week). No more offers of a drink when he stops by, or to hang out for a while. I have made it way too easy for him these past 2 months, and gave him the good bits of me without a morsel in return. I feel good about my revelations.
Worrying about H and our M is useless, and won't change the course it's taking. I've got living to do, and that's what I plan to do!