I have the girls the week of 12/15. STBXW wants me to come down on 12/12 and all be together until she flies out on 12/15. From BD to last weekend she wanted nothing to do with FTF meetings. We hadn't been together as a family since mid-August. She said "we need to emphasize we will all still be family, that we can come together and hang out". I see through it. It's all self-serving. I posted before that D12 asked if we could still do things together as a family. W said "maybe"--while I teared up knowing that it was the last time we'd have dinner, see Christmas lights, play games, and watch TV as a family. W wants to do this now. I suspect until D12 is given enough time to accept the reality of the D. I want nothing to do with it. As much as I'd like to see my daughters those extra three days, it tears me up emotionally. (I was doing pretty well until this last weekend.) I'd like to tell her a lot of this, that we aren't a family anymore, that she ended our family, that we are two families with co-parents. I won't tell her, but I did tell her that I won't do this because it gives false hope to D12.
