For whatever reason, people often "affair down" and that baffles me. Use it as a reason to feel better about yourself. OW is only appealing because she is what you ain't.
I know, right? This is helping right now. I don't know if it's a coping mechanism for me or what, but in this moment I need to be very confident in myself, and realizing that OW is nothing compared to me helps. I've never dressed sloppy for work, but I'm dressing up a bit more and concentrating on carrying my shoulders down and back and to walk straight with my head held high. This is important everywhere I go.
My not-so-secret fear is that I will literally run into OW around town. I have mentally prepared myself for this situation the best I can. I will try to always look on top of my game so she never sees me as a sad Ex-W. I'm working on looking people in the eye. Keep a pleasant expression on my face and smile at people when I'm shopping. And if I do see her, I will keep my face as neutral as possible, but perhaps give her a very brief up-and-down once over look. She'll probably be wearing leggings (*eyeroll*)
note: Sorry for fans of leggings. Not my cup of tea
