JB, speaking to a lawyer, and letting her know you did, doesn't mean you have to get them involved. the fact that I just had a phone consultation with a lawyer had an impact:
1) It made her realize that I was not going to fight the D, but embrace it. 2) As I said, it made her take pause and go, "uh oh, this may not go as smoothly as I hoped" 3) It hit her with the reality that D is a legal process that takes time, energy, money and effort, and isn't just a box you check in the "I'm moving on with my life" checklist.
Anyway, just consider it. It paid off in my sitch.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
