It definitely is not easy, pain18. H is in the Hospital with an issue and nobody is keeping me posted. He had felt ill and dropped our son off with me to go to urgent care but ended up in the hospital. I didnt hear anything all night and I finally asked his mom and niece this morning if they heard anything. Niece didnt know a thing about it and his mom never picked up the phone or called me. H finally texted back (no call of course) that he was in the hospital for a few days. I told him to feel better soon and he never replied.
I guess thats it then, he cant stand me, I didnt do a damn thing and he cant even keep me posted on how hes feeling. After twelve years you'd think he would be a little more courteous if anything for our son who is asking about him.
Well that was very uncaring of him and his family to just leave you uninformed like that. Sure he may be done with the M but you are right, you would think he would ask someone to let you know just out of common courtesy. I think you did the right thing in reaching out to him and his family.
As far as him not being able to stand you, you don't know that. You really don't know what he's thinking/ feeling, and even if he does feel that way it's just for now. You have to do things without expectations. It was fine to tell him to feel better, but not fine to expect some kind of response as it didn't really warrant a response.
My ex didn't want to have anything to do with me after BD. In my snooping phase I found a message she sent to a friend that her "worst nightmare" was contracting a serious illness and having to depend on me to take care of her. That was her exact phrase- "worst nightmare". Wow did that ever hurt to read. Now, several years after BD? My ex asks me for help with things around her house all the time. She invited me to Thanksgiving at her mom's. So feelings can and do change. Your H's will as well, try to look at your current sitch as temporary. Yes he may not want much to do with you right now, but a month from now? A year from now? Who knows.
