But honestly I am not in love with her anymore, she is a wreck and I don't see things changing.
With this level of detachment I am not sure I want her back. Not even sure if she would be capable of R at this point because she is so screwed up. My thoughts are to just continue to GAL and have been interested in other women but what is the next step for me? I am happy and moving on, do I try to see if there is anything there if she commits 100%?
Prepare for 2x4. Remember last week when AS commented on my sitch about the timeline and how we all like to think we're further ahead than we are? You said you were getting to 7 or 8, right? And statements like the one above SOUND like what someone at step 8 might honestly say. But I'm skeptical. I think you're at a 4, unless you're the world's best DBer and progressed faster than anyone else, ever. You'll recall that AS also said that anyone who has been here less than a year is probably somewhere in the 2-4 range. But prove me wrong.
Stay detached. You're seeing changes in the R but not in her. Obviously now would be a terrible time to say "Yup, we're back to normal, life will be great." But I also think, because you're in step 4, that it's much too soon to make any decisions. Once again, part of AS's post.
I'm not trying to be a jerk, just devil's advocate. Don't feel like you have to explain anything to me. Just think about it and see if there's any truth to it.
H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
