Haven't posted in a while but wanted to get feedback. W has been working from home last few weeks and is now somewhat depressed from lack of interaction with people. She is starting aggressive therapy to work on what her therapist sees as a type of PTSD and to dig deeper into issues from childhood/teen years. Her current sessions have been intense already and she is opening up to me about the content of her discussions. She has been drinking daily after her work day concludes to self medicate and I to a fault have been joining her although limited on the drinking.

Friday she made plans to hang out with some girlfriends and said she was going stir crazy in the house. I told her to go, as at this point I do feel detached and like I said before get more accomplished and find it easier to go about my day without her around. When she is out she drinks to the point where she should not drive and I knew she would not be home Friday night, and I didn't care. Sat came and as I said I accomplished a lot Friday, met with some friends got yardwork done, didn't drink, slept well, etc. Then to my surprise she was home at 1:00 Sat afternoon. She still could have been with OM but typically would spend the weekend out but either way I don't really care.

W has been home a lot more...like 98% more, has been opening up more...expressed extreme sorrow and pain on Thursday about what she has done to me, discussing her therapy, has been telling me how good of a person I am and I didn't deserve any of this and would understand if I didn't want her back. Told me some things I thought I would never hear like how she resented how my family life was growing up because it was the polar opposite of what she had as a child and that she has a hard time dealing with my parents and me because of that. She has come to terms that she will not resent us for that and instead work to get her life in order so she can break the destructive pattern that she is in to benefit our kids and family.

With these updates my question is: What do I do now if she is truly trying to come out of this? I feel so unemotional about our R right now and only feel sorry for her suffering through her revelations about her life. I do not want to help her, she knows she is alone in this fight. I am very happy that if she decides to continue being a WW that it does not affect me anymore. We ares still in separate BRs but have been physically involved regularly and I have slept in the MBR. But honestly I am not in love with her anymore, she is a wreck and I don't see things changing.

With this level of detachment I am not sure I want her back. Not even sure if she would be capable of R at this point because she is so screwed up. My thoughts are to just continue to GAL and have been interested in other women but what is the next step for me? I am happy and moving on, do I try to see if there is anything there if she commits 100%?


H-50
W-48
T-19
M -18
S23, S14
BD - 5/9/2018
OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019