You need to be patient T. You know that. Keep working on yourself. Keep GAL
I know. Well one good thing throughout this is, unlike in the past, if/when something is bothering us, we have legitimately positive conversations about it.
W apologized for drinking so much last night, and I told her 'it happens', but I'm more disappointed that she kind of chose to have friends come with us, instead of it just being her and I for a while. She apologized for that and validated what I was saying. Again, in the past, neither of us would have said anything, which would have led to an eventual fight. So this is improvement.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
I just wanted to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving. Be thankful for what you do have in your lives, and at least for a few days, try to forgot about what you don't have.
As for my sitch, not much has changed. I'm still trying to get over the bronchitis, and now W seems to have it. We're having Thanksgiving dinner at our house with our family's, so it'll be a busy evening.
We were supposed to have a MC appt today, but we had to cancel due to W's work schedule. No biggie. Things seem to be continuing to progress well.
Anyway, again, hope everyone has a great holiday weekend!
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
Yesterday came and went as usual. Every time we have some type of party or event at our house, W gets completely stressed out, bossy, bitchy, etc. Yesterday was no different. I don't think she said 5 words to me all day except for complaining about something. I'm definitely getting a bad vibe. Maybe it was just stress. Maybe it's because she's a little sick. But something's been 'off' the last few days in my opinion
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
We took our son, along with friends to an indoor arcade/play zone thing for kids. We had a good time, then went to friends house after to hang out (drink). Again, pretty uneventful, although W drank more than she should have
Yesterday W slept most of the day and said next to nothing all day and night. I finally said to her 'you've been pretty quiet all day. Are you ok?' She said she's just tired and it's been a long weekend.
Still no physical contact. Well, she did put her arm around me and her head on my shoulder at the arcade thing on Saturday, but that's it. Honestly though, this last week feels eerily similar to how we've been the past year or two (little communication, distant, etc). Hopefully it's just a bump in the road due to the holiday, being sick, etc.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
8th MC session yesterday. Went well. W began by saying about how she knows she was kind of bitchy over the holidays when I tried helping with things. She apologized and said she needs to work on that.
We then talked about the last session (W's resentments), and that somehow lead into talking about W's EA a bit. MC tried explaining the overall pattern/reasons for any type of A. Said I am doing well with not bringing it up much, but also said it usually takes a year to regain trust. W didn't say much, except the usual of 'there's no excuse for it, it was just a fantasy world, I hope he can trust me again, etc.' W also said that she's fully committed to 'us' now, and will do whatever it takes. That was nice to hear, although, it's just still words at this point.
MC also admitted that thus far we've been focusing on W's issues towards me, and the reason being was she wanted to get W back to being fully committed. I kinda figured that, but was good of MC to say. She also said that thus far it seems that I'm doing most of the 'work', and that W will need to start meeting my needs. She didn't say it as bluntly as that, but was the gist of it. W agreed
Overall, I think things are going well. I've been busy as hell with our son since wrestling season has started (I'm a coach). So not a ton of time to GAL, but son and I are at practice several nights a week which is good bonding time for us.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
I have to admit that it sounds promising but I am more of a I have to see it to believe kinda guy.
Have you read Hoosjims thread? If not, it is very long but I think it could be beneficial to you. There are a lot of similarities. Also, it has a happy ending.
I have to admit that it sounds promising but I am more of a I have to see it to believe kinda guy.
Have you read Hoosjims thread? If not, it is very long but I think it could be beneficial to you. There are a lot of similarities. Also, it has a happy ending.
I probably have read some of it, but I will again.
Yeah, I'm that way too. And for as positive as things sound/appear, there's still a long ways to go.
People say it's a marathon. Sometimes I feel like I'm running the marathon, thinking I'm halfway done. Then I pass a mile marker that says like 'mile 6'. lol.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
I agree with you T and with LH. When she says this stuff that's great. But you will know it is true when her actions are consistent over a long period of time.
Until then....blah blah blah blah blah.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
