So, in the interest of big b@Ils I finally received the childcare schedule for December. For those that don’t know my H works a 24/7 roster (which he has limited control over), goes through it, works out when he will have the children (inc. when he will come get them in the morning and after school), and then passes it to me. I went through it - he is seeing them quite a lot but he only has them overnight 4 nights.
After some back and forwarding (I have plans on the 4th - any chance you could have them blah blah blah) I got tired of sounding like a beggar and sent the following ...
“Cool. Thanks
I would like you to start having the girls overnight more often in the new year - at least a minimum of 10 nights per calendar month. I can see you make a big effort to see the children much more often but pick ups and having them until seven doesn’t allow me freedom to do much more than go to work. I know we have to work within the confines of your roster, but four nights in 31 is a little one sided. If you could give this some thought when you put your schedule together for Jan that would be great. Thanks”
There is a tight pain in my chest and my heart is beating incredibly fast.
I guess this is what fear (or Adrenalin) feels like.
I expect (there’s that word again) some retaliation - more passive aggressive bs. He won’t say anything directly to me, but undoubtedly, will hold it in, and next time I do something he doesn’t like, I will get “you’re selfish”, “you don’t care about your children” ... and I will say (because I have read the boundaries thread a hundred times) “I am not going to listen to you while you speak to me like that” and walk out. That’s the plan anyway.
