You and I are in a very similar sitch with respect to having a WAS. I missed the signs and there were MANY unfortunately. And he only lives ten minutes away but it might as well be in another state (or province since I am Canadian) as he is miles away from me emotionally. The rejection and the speed at which they run really is the HARDEST part to get over. It really knocks your feet right out from under you. Nothing you can do. All we can do is try to change ourselves for the better and try not to make the same mistakes the next time...if there is a next time.

As a man, I think your chances at finding love are better than mine. Sadly, there are far more women out there than men. And even though I look 40 and feel 40, my age will be 50 on any kind of a dating profile and that is a scary number for a lot of people. I had to laugh at my XH. He was lamenting to me last year that he had gone out with a woman and she was attractive and great but she was 52 years old. Huh?? My XH is 53...lol. The other thing I have to worry about, as a woman, is who I expose my children to. I am not naive. I know there are predators out there just looking for a vulnerable single mother with cute kids. My kids are beautiful, trusting and kind. I would have to think long and hard before I exposed them to anyone. My H was encouraging me to date the other day. I think that was more about making himself feel better than me. I am not like him. I cannot knowingly try to fill up an emptiness within myself with another person. I need to know and love myself first and be over my H before I even think about it. So, by that time, maybe I will be 52...lol. Anyway... I digress. Not sure what sent me down that path. The things we think about.

Your girls are lucky to have a dad like you. It is so important for girls to have good dads. A dad really is a girl’s first love. My dad was amazing. All I ever saw when he looked at me was unconditional love and pride. I still feel it to this day and he has been gone for 13 years. I wish my H had known him. I think we would be in a different place if he had. Ah... the what ifs of the world... there are so, so many. Time to focus on what is. Many (((HUGS))) to you and yours Harvey. Better days are coming.

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