Gosh Pain... I get it. I really do. I have those feelings sometimes too. It is disheartening when they come. I know that you are trying to focus on you but what I read in your post is that you are focused more on your anger and that isn’t helping you. Try to make this less personal. Difficult, I know. But I think you really need to understand, I mean really understand, that this is not about you. It is about her. For whatever reason she can only give you what she is capable of right now. She is in her own version of hell right now and she can’t talk to you about it. Drop the rope Pain. Just let it go. Open the cage door and let her fly. It is the only way through this. (((HUGS)))