He then said “I love you but I can’t do these ups and downs anymore.” I think he means he likes to send me “nice” messages and crude messages but when I call him out on it, he can’t handle it.
Yep. He can't handle it. This is your reminder to stop responding to him, because it's affecting you more than it is him. I guarantee he is not still reliving your interaction - but you are.
Originally Posted by cdd1976
I was hoping to clear my mind on this vacation. I didn’t fully but it did get clearer to me how he is manipulating me and truly has narcissistic tendencies.
Although you responded in a way you probably shouldn't have, consider your growing clarity a win. You are seeing who he really is right now, and you don't like it. Remember what you've learned from these interactions!
