Whirlwind of Hurt 5

[Twofeet]

DV6, thank you for the kind words.

LH,
Time & Space... That's why I am glad Thanksgiving is over and we can go back to the regular school routine. No face to face contact and limited to no convos. I also want to make myself available to the kids, but not her. Is this coming across wrong?

Loud and clear on the comments to the kids about fault/blame.

Lastly, when she told D8 those things I understand where some of it comes from and where I seriously failed. I listened to her all the time, I am a good listener, however if I am being honest I didn't know how to validate until BD. I didn't understand the male logistical communication vs the female emotional communication until my IC sat me down and explained it all to me.
A lot of what she wanted and wanted to talk about was financially and logistically unrealistic for the stability of our family. I would like to think if I knew how to properly validate and communicate with her that maybe this wouldn't have happened. However, even if I did she has plenty of her own demons she has been chasing and I wouldn't be surprised if the results ended up the same. Good news is I have learned from this, and I am learning to communicate better which will help going forward with W, with my children, and any future R.