Trying to keep the faith (Part 2)

[burned]

I am about as close to a woman only a fool would leave as a woman can be ... apart, of course, from the constant obsessing about my H.

And maybe there’s the key. He can smell it.

Objectively you sound great. I think the same things about myself and they’re mostly true. But the one thing we both have that makes us less desirable is that we both give the impression that we value something that doesn’t value us? And perhaps that indicates some deep-seated insecurity (I know it does for me), and others can detect that insecurity, and it makes them less confident that their own insecurities won’t overwhelm them and you (see my latest post in my thread for an interpretation of that). And so forth with all the weird counterintuitive psychology.

So the advice most of the men get on this site is to make yourself desirable by being unavailable. But be unavailable when he wants you. If you’re very rational and assertive then it might not make sense to act “coquettish” or whatever, but maybe biology trumps rationality, and some targeted seductive strategies like that might help? I am the last person you would want to ask about how, but I’m passing along some advice that I’ve gotten here.