Wow FS. It sounds like you are a married couple who just happen to sleep in different houses. Burned is right... he hasn’t lost much. BUT...I also know where you are at with respect to the kids and doing what is best for them. Carrying on like this is good for them in a sense as they have both of you and they get to see that you still care about each other. My concern is more about you and what this new normal is becoming. It seems like there is no OW currently so he spends his time with you. But if one all of a sudden put in an appearance and he was not around so much, how do you think you would deal with it? Would you shrug your shoulders (as you would if you were detached) or would it be BD all over again? And would it be BD all over again for your kids? I am certainly not someone to give advice in this regard and I have to say that I am envious of your sitch in some ways as I wish I saw my H that much and we were on friendly terms like that. My H is too worried about giving me false hope whereas yours does not seem too concerned about that. I don’t know. From your description (and that is all I have to go on), I would not be surprised if your H would be open to R but that he is too proud and possibly scared to bring it up. It may be cake eating but it may also be that as you did say it was you who pressed for him to MO and you are the person setting the emotional boundaries.
And just so you know... I still think your H is going to be one of the ones who wants to come back.
