I know that must have been very tough, Hurt. You have really shown a lot of strength and determination. I respect how you have stood up to her and told her how things will be. She would have used you to play happy family in front of others until the holidays were over, but nothing would have changed in the MR.

When she was saying how that maybe in five years or so her feelings might change toward fighting for her family......shows her arrogance. Who knows where either of you will be in five years, but there have been cases where the couple gets back together, even after divorce.

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I will embrace this journey (Because until this point, all I have done is try to make her not go down this path - I realized that this is not about her anymore, I need to take control of my life, because my life is happening, and it shouldn't revolve around her anymore), learn from it, and maybe in the future, she will reach out, and if not, then adventures awaits me. I will be the man, only a fool would leave. She decided to leave, but maybe though my personal adventure, and the life I will pursue, she will see what she lost, and if not, another great person will see, what they can have.


You have taken action and made tough decisions. probably as quick as any newbie I remember. For what it's worth, I think you are doing a fine a job at taking back your b@lls. Getting through the holidays will be a challenge. Do what you need to do for yourself to wart off the depression.

((hugs))

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!