Dealing with a WW trying to save marriage pt2

[joejoe1]

So,

I just read and rarely post lately. But you need to ask youself are you using the advice given or are you picking and choosing what you want. Your entire post above was about your WW and not making her angry, mad or getting her upset. If you are worried about her feelings, you are not DBing. You are not detaching. You are try to appease her.

When you are dealing with the financial portion of your Marriage, don't do what your WW wants. Do what's fair. Do what's right for both of you. Doing what's fair most likely want make your WW happy, but it will show her that you are no longer at her beacon and call.

Your WW is yelling, screaming and berating you because she deeply resents you and doesn't have respect for you. Ask youself, what have you done to lose your WW respect. And how can you start to gain her respect. IMO, the very first thing you need to do is respect yourself. Once that happens repsect from other's will fall in place. I suspect you haven't created boundaries or if you have, you haven't held your WW to those boundaries. You need to write your boundaries down and write actionable/realistic consequences if she cross your boundaries. Reread Sandi's 37 rules.

People are here to help you, to help you they will be very honest. We can't grow without honesty. We stay stuck when people give us what we want. The people on here isn't about staying stuck, but moving forward and healing. So you will rarely get what you want and will be given exactly what you need.