I'm still chewing on to that statement "As long as it is life affirming, rather than just coping". I'm not sure if I just don't like the verbs or what.
To me, no one can answer your question "How long does one hold on to hope?". Every "one" is different, stronger, more/less patient, etc etc. How long can you remain hopeful? I doubt even you know.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.