I live in a big old rambley somewhat run down house. It needed a lot of work when we moved in 30 years ago - much of which is still not done. All the "structural" stuff was done a long time ago as I re-wired, re-plumbed doing most of the work myself.
A lot of the cosmetic things aren't done though. I am sitting in a room right now that probably has wallpaper that is as old as I am in it.
But because of the fuss that my ex would make when for example I was patching plaster, stripping wallpaper etc, especially if "her stuff" had to be moved a lot of things just didn't get done. I'd get done what I could when she was away or work on a room that was unused and that I could empty, close the door and work on in peace.
And generally she never offered to help.
We get used to this sort of stuff and think of it as normal but it is just one of the ways that we are kept in line and kept down. It feels weird when we finally can look at it from the "outside".
((Gerda))
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
