We went to see Wreck It Ralph 2. My oldest said it was a great movie but the ending was too sad because Venelope left Ralph. I teared up.
Grief is a funny beast. It hits you at the oddest moments - creating even the most tenuous of links. Before we had told the girls, we went to watch The Greatest Showman together. The girls sat between us. I cried from beginning to end. Silently wiping away the tears so the girls wouldn’t see. He saw though and looked away. I saw us in in the relationship between Hugh Jackman and his wife and in zac efron and Zendaya. We were everywhere in that bloody stupid musical. My own private pity party in the middle of the cinema. I watched it again last night, snuggled on the sofa with my girls. We sang along to the songs, we laughed when someone got the words wrong or sang out of tune. I had completely forgotten until just now the pain I went through that first time.
Originally Posted by Harvey
When we were saying our prayers as I was tucking her in, she prayed that we'd all be together again soon. I had a little cry after I walked out of the room.
They will keep doing this. Kids Dont want to rock the boat. They don’t want to upset you or your W. So, they tell someone else, or make an ofhand comment. Each time will hit you like a tonne of bricks.
Originally Posted by harvey
Right now, I'm feeling bitterness towards my W for putting our girls through this. I will be honest with them. There's no way I'm going to relieve my W of the burden of choosing to D. (She wanted to tell the girls the D was mutual.) Tomorrow will be the hardest day of my life.
Do not let her off the hook but also do not play the blame game in front of your kids. There are things they do not need to know right now. I let him say that it was because mummy and daddy fight too much and we both needed time apart. I wish I had had the foresight to say “Daddy is moving out because he is unhappy and needs time to work out why. What he and I both know is that we both love you very much and that will never change”.
Btw - we had discussed telling the kids but not when. I came home from work and went straight upstairs to shows and change. He followed me into the bathroom where I was naked and about to walk into the shower and said “I think we should tell them now”. At least you have some time to prepare.
