Thanks. Started to detach a month ago, I guess it wasn't full effort or perhaps it takes time. I know I have to do it for myself in order to heal. It makes it both easier and harder while being in the house.
It is a lot of effort and it DOES take time, but keep at it. Being in the same house is so much harder. I had the luxury if long periods of not being together, and every time we spend time together by the time she left I would feel how draining, hard and negative it was being around her. But without time apart and/or detaching we tend to "normalize" things and don't realize how bad it really is sometimes. Detaching and going no contact allows us to start registering the pain and difficulty and to find our footing.
