13 yrs and two kids pt. 2.

[Hurt213]

I don't know how to do quotes (im a moron sorry :D, i tried marking the text I want quoted, but it just quotes the entire post .)

Sandi; We have divided the weeks into a 7-7 in-house seperation agreement, which means, 7 days the kids are my sole responsibility and the other 7 they are hers (just like it will be when we move out). If one of us are not doing anything, say she has no plans like tonight, then I can of course go out, and I plan to! So it is not like she is spending 7 days at OMs house, she is there 1-2 times a week, and this morning she came home at 5 - 5.30 in the morning (i guess she slept there but woke up early and came home or she didn't sleep at all (doesn't really matter)).

The thing is, I haven't been very good at helping out with the kids and getting them ready, making breakfast and stuff while I was battling my depression, so I decided to 180 on that behaviour once I got better. I am now doing 90% of the morning stuff with the kids while she gets all fancy dressed up and put on her battle kit (make-up). I however am not doing this to be a pushover, but because I am now able to, and I enjoy it. It gives me some special morning moments with my kids, and its about me and them really.

The Christmas thing this sunday is a local community thing, and I have decided that she can go with the kids, I will not be going. I have also told her, that I of course will not be joining them for her families annual "Christmas Lunch" <-- don't know if that is the word.

I can understand the part about letting go to move forward and to protect my self from further emotional abuse from her part.

Neffer,
First of all thanks for another great helpful input!

I might be interpreting the wrong way, but it seems to me that you are saying neffer, that I should not bet on R ever, but move on to another future, because she is not worth the effort?