We are all imperfect Turbine. We say things we later regret. We do things we later regret. Hopefully we learn from those things and become better people along the way. I think you are starting to see your W’s flaws and with everything that has happened, her good qualities are fading into the background a little bit. I think that is part of detaching...to see them as they are and not as they were or how we would like them to be. I think that question of whether or not you want to save the MR is one that you will face many times over the coming months. For me, that is a no-brainer at the moment. I do. Probably a lot of that has to do with the fact that I have two children who still need both of their parents in their lives as much as possible and a D would alter their world substantially. If it were just me that I was fighting for, I think I would probably move on quicker. Whether or not you want to R with your W is a question that only you can answer. I think you are just moving toward detachment so it is normal for you to start to think about what it is YOU want instead of what she wants. You don’t have to make any decisions right now. Just keep DBing and GAL and I think you will know what to decide when it is time. (((HUGS)))
