I know that she was faithful up until the point of the BD, but I am not sure if she still is. We talked about sexual boundaries during this period, but she clearly stated that nothing was off the table at the moment and she needed to “discover herself”. The only rule she would agree to was not to bring anyone to the house or introduce the kids when she gets into a relationship.
JB...do you REALLY know? I am terribly sorry, but what you've said sounds like she is already with or in pursuit of someone else. Given her "terms" and her "discover herself"...your sitch (situation) reeks of someone else in the picture. I would tell you to take off your rose colored glasses on her right now.
[qoute=jb42]She wants to cohabitate in the marital home for the kids after the divorce[/quote]
THIS ^^^^^ is C.R.A.Z.Y. "cake eating" as we call it here. Like ovrrnbw just told you COMPLETE fantasy/delusion land.
Originally Posted by jb42
Despite all the turmoil and uncertainty, I love my wife and want her to come back to the marriage. I know things can never be the same and I honestly wouldn’t want that.
There are tons of us men and women who feel exactly as you do about your spouse and MR, but given what you have provided about your sitch things may already be less the same than the realize and you may really not want that.
Read, read, read the information Cadet gave you. There is SO MUCH helpful information for you. Also, shut up, shut up, shut up with your mouth, text or email to your W regarding the relationship. You can do MUCH more damage via pursuit in any of those methods.
Know that you are not alone in what you are dealing with and post often where many wonderful people will give you great advice.
