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Even if there were, they would strike me as symptoms, rather than the disease
True, but the symptom can still kill you.

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I believe individuals need and want an unshakable sense of self to live a life of wholeness and integrity

Wow. Very deep and true. I think I rocked my W's sense of self and you got me thinking about that. Thanks!

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I think we rely on these labels--MLC, WW, WAS--as shorthanded ways to deal with complex situations.
Yes, we love labels and shorthand. That way we quickly quickly categorize it and move to the next situation.

I like your point about knowing what you control. I hope for the best for you paco.

Have you had any interaction with her lately?

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.