For the bedroom thing, attorney advised me not to ruffle unnecessary feathers because she can file for temporary orders which hit me hard financially.

She came home at 3am. I was up most of the night tossing and turning.

I knocked on her door around 645 to ensure she was home so I could leave for work (has a loaner vehicle and not parking in garage and i cannot see driveway without going outside).

She said i am not her parent and dont need to check up on her. I told her my intentions.
She then said i came home earlier and didn't say hello to her and that set her off.
Then I stupidly asked if the was with OM and she denied. She said she never asks who I am with and I reminded her she does this on a daily basis.
She asked why didn't I text her during the night if I was concerned. I said we need space. I also reminded her we would extend the courtesy to let one another know if we would not be home when the other gets home with the kids. Just a yes or no, not specific times or anything else.
I said I am glad she had some time to herself. She reminded me I left for 2 days without mentioning whereabouts. I told her I just found out she is cheating on me and I needed time. She said she is not cheating and the M is over.i said we will see what a judge thinks about it and walked out.

Not my best of moments but during replay 1 she begged me to remove infidelity as the reason for divorce and turned a corner when she suspected I was going after kids. I did not have solid proof of infidelity then but I do now. She does not know what this is though.

I thought her being out all night would slow down but it has happened twice in the past week. It is a school holiday so perhaps it will slow next week. It does bother me, some concern of who she is with but also in terms of her safety. She has never been one to stay out late.

We will see what the next few days brings. During replay 1 she swore she would file temp orders but never did, even during heated moments. We also fought like cats and dogs during replay 1 for about 3 weeks and then things calmed. It's strange because I have expectations of how this will go based on the past but it is terribly unpredictable. The only difference now is that I am not pursuing her anymore.

As for what set her off. I did say hello back but I guess she did not hear me.